It’s that time of year where we single people are suffocated with red, white, and pink. Some of you may even go as far as to stay off of Instagram just to avoid the couple posts. It’s 2021, though. The time has come to leave the old meaning of V-Day behind. The most important person we should show love to on the 14th is ourselves because, at the end of the day, that’s all we truly have.
Now before this passes off as another self-love piece, hear me out. If you aren’t spending your day with a significant other or even friends, you’re expected to sit on your couch and mope over a pile of junk food. If that’s your idea of a great Valentine’s day, I’m not knocking it. If you feel like you’re obligated to stay in because your favorite magazine or influencer said so, though, we have a problem.
Think about your dream valentine's date. Is it a candlelit dinner with chocolate-covered strawberries? Does a vacation sound like what you need? For some, it’s just as simple as feeling loved. All of these can be achieved on your own. However. If you spend all of your time wishing to have someone for valentine’s day or for dates in general, you’re going to miss out on all of the possible quality time with yourself.
It’s a continuous process of learning to love yourself and embracing being with yourself. The fear of being alone runs through our entire society. Yet, with this new year and the ever-changing social norms, it’s something we can teach ourselves and the generations to come.
Falling in love with yourself starts with cherishing the time you have alone. Do you or someone you know seem to always need another to tag along with them when they have plans? I used to find hidden coffee shops or other places to explore, but I wouldn’t go if I couldn’t find someone to come with. I don’t even want to think about all of the missed opportunities because of my dependency on others. But, it’s for this reason that overcoming your fear aligns you with the people you’re supposed to meet and the moments that could shape your future self.
Take it one step at a time and give yourself grace. Often, I still fall into the complacency of dependency. The only thing there is to do is reflect on it and approach the next circumstance differently. Start this Valentine’s day, or even sooner if you wish. We all work too hard to not treat ourselves the way we deserve. All of the date ideas you dream about; create them for yourself. Order yourself a box of chocolate-covered strawberries and drink a glass of wine (or the whole bottle!). However you choose to spend this February 14th, make sure it equates to what you’re worth and the way you want to spend the day.